Expectations!!!

"what do you expect of your future spouse?"
Pastor Anita popped that question at small group discussion y'day and left all of us speechless (which is not very usual in my group) Listening to the different people share was kinda interesting... They all think very alike and i was sort of alien to all those expectations that each one of them listed out!!! Here are a few....

Ella: He must be a handy person (like someone who can fix a broken bulb or chair etc) ** at this i went blur**

Samuel : I want her to be a housewife and raise the kids. **my reply wud be "what about her dreams and ambitions???"

Lewis: these days i'v been thinking about getting married. ** ding!!!**so straight-forward**

Jerry: Shud not shop so much. or buy something expensive and later come and shock me ** Hello gals love to shop,,,, so its a matter of who's money are u using to do that refreshing hobby**

"know how to cook" "must love kids" "need not be handsome" ** let me tell you at tis my nouth jus dropped** "must know how to manage finance cos i m very bad" etc etc... everyone jus starting popping like a popcorn....

THEN after a short while, they paused and asked who hasn't share... and tada,,, it was me... i din wana open my mouth.. i mean i don mind sharing but all the things they listed out were like so different from what i expected. I mean they were so specific, and i'v never tod of all these... so i replied, "I don wana say"
"Why not??"
"cos mine is so diff from yours and i mit sound superficial"
" it ok. jus tell us what you have in mind"
mmmm...... ya then i tod hey doesn't matter if they think i m weird or anything.. i jus went ahead... lol... Ya all those list!!! Tall, handsome, gud body (not too fat not too thin) must b manly enough to carry the colour PINK, smart and hard-working but not neccesarily rich (being rich is not in my list), must super pamper me and shud also be able to take all the pampering that i will pour out to him... blah blah blah,, the list goes on!!! But sadly i forgot to add the most important thing.. MUst be Godly!!!

Well!! then after all that she jus threw us another question
"you have all listed out your expectations, but what about your partner's expectation?"
Then she pointed out, that we may have expectations too,, but will be be able to bend our expectations abit for the expectations of our partner... ya n that put us to a silent mode again!!!

Well, nwas that lesson that i specifically learnt was that this small rule applies even in our ministry or other aspects. ** dealing with the expectations of others**